Spoken as a woman I feel comfortable enough to say:
WE OVERTHINK THINGS!!!!
Stop IT!
Men think and respond totally left of us chix! The Key is learning the basics that make talking to them less.... traumatizing.
1. Hey Bitch Slow DOWN! We tend to talk faster than we think! We get all excited and talk like we're Charo... this makes it hard for anyone, not just a man to understand and appreciate what we have to say... let alone respond!
2. LET HIM RESPOND! Wait for him. It's not ALWAYS that men are SLOW, but it takes them a little more time to process things when talking to us. Don't pressure him to answer your questions or answer for him (THAT's a date KILLER). Chill and Give him a minute.... GEESH!
3. Don't beat around the bush! Be direct. Little girls skirt around, Grown Ass Women get to the POINT! Girls we mess this up all the time because we think that we can hint at the answer or give him clues about what we want him to do or say or give, etc. DANGER!!!! Men don't want women to be subtle with them, they want a woman to say exactly what they want and exactly how they feel. Sorry hun but, men will very rarely guess what's on your mind or correlate the cold shoulder you're giving him to something they did wrong.
4. MOST IMPORTANT: He is not one of the girls. This sounds overly obvious, but it is, in fact one of the major problems we have when talking to a man. Men are very rational, so when a woman vents her feelings with him, he will try to solve her problem rather than sympathize with her like her girlfriends will. Learn to expect him to be like that, and it will be less frustrating when he seems "emotion-less." Truth is, he is full of emotions for the woman and he thinks offering suggestions to solve this issue is the best way to help her.
So Girls... get your head on right! I know I may lose my Bad Girl Card by saying this, but it isn't ALWAYS his fault.... shut your mouth and think and don't OVERTHINK!
xo
Des
